THE POWER OF SILENCE!

           In a difficult conversation where one is usually seeking for answers like why something happened or didn’t happen and other just doesn’t bother to sort that shit out. Usually, when you are clear at your side, you are the one who look for answers because you genuinely want to know about that one reason due to which all your friendship and love for each other just vanishes and so does communication.

           Trust me, in tough talks like that, silence can be your greatest accessory to get your answers. I know, many people won’t believe me right now because for them, silence plays like a coward role which is totally untrue. Actually, it plays other way round because people don’t like those “awkward silences” and that’s the reason people try to avoid such hysteric moments. But if you use that silence in the right way and with good intentions, silence can be good for you.

             
              Constantly criticizing for something you didn’t do can be really disturbing for one’s mind and maintaining positivity during a tough talk is like a blessing. It saves us from many problems and unrequired nuisance.

              

              As on his LinkedIn blog, Dr. Travis Bradberry explains that:

“When you ask someone a question and they are slow to respond, don’t feel pressure to move the conversation forward. Remaining silent plays to your advantage. Moments of silence make people feel as though they should speak, especially when the ball is in your court. (i.e. it’s your responsibility now to take a step forward and speak). Silence is a great tool to use in discussions and other difficult conversations. Just make certain you resist the urge to move the conversation forward until you get your answers.”

              

              Being silent is also a symbol of playing matured game where you could throw hundreds and thousands of bad words on someone’s face (and cause more trouble for yourself) but you still choose to keep quiet and listen all that the other person wants to say. Acting like the shit that you said just now didn’t bother me at all is the toughest performance of all times where you want to say so many things to your beloved but got no other option. 

             Silence can go both ways: When you come across a tough question, embrace the silent pause that will come along with it. Take your time to process your answer and reply only when you’re ready because replying something meaningful and saving your relationship is better than saying something shitty and destroy your relationship. With a little silence, you can take control of the conversation and get exactly what you hoped for. 

             Also, a meaningful silence is better than meaningful words because no words can explain what’s going on in your heart and mind. At the end, we won’t remember the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends. 

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