WHAT I LEARNED FROM 2018!

                When I sat down to think about positives and negatives I faced in 2018, also preparing for the New Year, setting my goals and planning how I was going to achieve the things I really wanted, it dawned on me just how insane and reflective 2018 was. The fact, that there are many things to share but it’d be a little injustice trying to fit all that in a single blog so I thought I’d share top 7 lessons I learned this year. Hope this helps. J

 1.   Try to Invest in yourself.   I’ve talked about this earlier, in my previous blogs that loving and investing in yourself is so much necessary. Also that, this year investing in myself was one of my top priorities, and I must say it has come through. Whether it was buying books, or something seemingly as trivial as upgrading my wardrobe.    So far, it’s proven to be true. Hence, I’ll continue to do so. In the past seven months, I have purchased more books than I probably had in the past two years. Why? Because I’ve learned the importance of investing in my growth and development.

                    

   After I started doing it, I realized how important it is to invest in your today for a better result tomorrow!

2.  Say no more often. 

    I’m the type of person who dislikes saying no to people, just to make them happy at the expense of my own happiness. Saying yes can be good, don’t get me wrong, but saying no is perfectly okay too. And I’ve to work on that as well. 

                 

   Saying no to some things which doesn’t make you happy can help you sort your priorities which is ultimately good for you. So that’s a win-win right there.

3. People are always watching you.   In a way, I’ve always known this. More specifically, with my blogs, I have the numbers to prove it. However, this year, I’ve learned in an almost awe astonishing way that people are always watching you. Whether its for inspiration, motivation, or just to be nosey, I’ve learned that I have to be intentional about the things that I do.                           

    Being an inspiration for people has always been my priority and it will always continue to top the list. No matter how small you think your platform is, you always have an audience. That’s not to say that you should fake the funk for the public eye. Instead it is a subtle reminder that you must be a person of integrity and high moral character regardless of your environment.

4.  Being organised is so much fun. 

   I would like to admit here that I am pretty organised person. I really enjoy collecting things for my stuff to be in order. But this year I’ve realised just how organised I need to be, especially in terms of blogging. I really keep writing stuff but I’m constantly confused about how do I organise it and portray it in the best way I can. 

                                  

   I constantly want to update little things about my blog to make it look better and I want to post more often, but I have to be organised in order to make this happen! So that’s going to be resolved in these upcoming years.

5.  Cutting off toxic people from your life is okay. 

   This year, I had to cut off many people who weren’t really doing any good to me. It’s not easy, but at the same time it’s okay to do that, whether they’re a relative or not. 

                                        

  If someone just bothers you constantly, there are just two ways to sort that shit out. Either talk about it to that person or just cut them off TOTALLY. Because at the end, the only person who cares about you in this world is you. So, go ahead, be selfish and choose yourself.

6.  Some situations are just out of control. 

    As much as I wish that I could control some situations, I just can't. Sometimes it’s easier to go with the flow rather than stressing and worrying over something that you can’t do anything about. I need to learn to relax more in such situations because these situations are such where if you speak a word, destruction is caused already and if you don’t, it’s going to kill you mentally. 

                     

   Following on from the previous one, appreciate the little things, life can be short. I feel like it’s important to be thankful and appreciate of even the smallest things that have happened in your day.

7.   Making mistakes is okay. 

   2018 also taught me that making mistakes are a must. Everyone makes mistakes. But there's a catch to how you deal with it. If you just say that you're not going to repeat the same and avoid it at all costs, you're essentially not learning from your mistake. You're running away from why it happened in the first place. Make mistakes, learn, grow, develop, help others do the same, do what you love and find what you truly seek, what your heart calls out for. Also, it is absolutely fine if this process seems slow. 

                                

   Your gut somehow knows what it’s doing so let it take you wherever it’s going! Trust yourself and do what YOU love.   I hope that you’ve also spent the time going through and listing out your 2018 to potentially inspire you or even give you a sense of achievement that the year in 2018 was in fact a positive one, if you look at the positives as your focus!

                            

             Wishing y'all a happy and a productive NEW YEAR! 

Also read my other blogs here, https://pradnya01.blogspot.com/2018/01/no-one-is-perfect.html 

-Love XOXO

How writing changed my life...

              Writing?  Ughhh. How can someone just keep writing, on and on, day and night about every little thing. Well, it gets tough for majority of people but if you ask me,'Writing' is the only reason that changed my life. Okay, let me elaborate it with a thought experiment. I'll prove it to you that not only you can travel forward in time but also backward. Don't believe me? See, I wrote this sentence at 2:47pm on Wednesday March 20 in Mumbai, but at this very moment my words are currently inside your head, aren't they? Ok, so we can't physically travel back in time but the magic of writing makes us telephatic, meaning capable of transmitting thoughts to other people. When I say "writing", by the way, I don't mean tweets, status updates, project proposals, invoices, thank you letters or love letters or a complaint letter to someone. They don't count, because they're written for other people, not you.
           So let me tell you about how I started writing...
           A few years ago, I completely, totally, messed up my life, I was not okay or say it like I wasn't happy, somewhat near to depression, it felt like that, for about 8 months straight, due to some reasons. I couldn't eat, drink, sleep or think about anything else. All I did was nothing. Many days passed and one day, a question suddenly popped in my mind, "How long are you going to continue with this?". I was stunned to think about how and what I'm going to do after this (middle school). I started searching for the answer. Meanwhile, I started writing whatever I thought, because I usually tend to forget things then, so I developed the habit of writing and trust me, that helped me find my answer and I was out of depression just like that,  I didn't even come to know. I didn't figure out what I'll do but it was more like a theory in the back of my head.

          Well stated quote, 'No one's life is as amazing as their instagram feed'; that phase when I was in depression, as everyone thought I had many friends to talk to, chill with, hangout with, surprisingly, truth was just it's opposite. Don't believe me? Honestly, I don't care either. In teenage years, everyone thinks others' life is amazing when the truth is everyone is dealing with their own sh*t.  Coming back to the story, that phase was disastrous. But knowingly, that phase is the actual reason of how I am today and guess what? Writing helped me when no one else did as it helped my mind go with the flow, all that gunk that I had in my brain cells were thrown on a sheet of paper.

            Meanwhile, I started a personal blog, and wrote an article about 'Power of Silence'. That was the first time I'd been honest about my feelings online and the response took me by surprise.I still get messages about that article. And thanks to y'all sweet hearts who honestly wanted to read my blog. My decision of writing is one of the best decisions I've ever taken and I think if you do that too, you'll have a great life ahead.

          Start with writing journals at the beginning if you're not so fond of writing. Maintain a journal and write about how your day was, write down about your dreams, making lists of ideas and just talk to yourself, that will give you a huge insight into your inner thoughts. Thank me later if this works. xD Also, I thank all those people who reacted like they existed in my life and hell they didn't give a damn about me, thanks to y'all who made me like how I am today. Wondering how I am today? Stronger than before, not involving in meaningless gossips, not hanging out much with those who don't even ask you after those meetups. Most importantly,  not believing in rumors. Never believe what people say about others. In most cases,  rumors are exactly opposite from what the truth is. Don't be the reason of making someone sad, instead, be the reason someone smiles today. I, honestly, don't know how people sleep at night when they just know that they abused someone very badly, or said some wrong things to someone, about someone, to someone.

            Writing is the solution to all the negativity that's running in your mind because writing doesn't just help you, it can help anyone who reads what you've written just like you all who are reading this blog. Just talk to yourself when you write, don't judge what you've written; just throw those words in your mind on the paper and let it go. Some people write to influence others, so that people can read them and have a positive influence in their lives. By teaching what you know, you can turn the learning process into a feedback loop, an echo chamber of your ideas. Learn, Teach. Learn. Teach. Learn. Teach.It's an infinite loop.

            If you're influenced by this even a bit and thinking to start writing. Here are few tips you can keep in mind:
1. Read more: Learn about things by reading and then teach people by writing.
2. Don't worry about how you're going to find readers, which blogging platform to use or which text editor to use. Just start writing.
3. Write like you talk. When you talk to yourself, you tend to think about many positive ideas that you want to do ahead but never end up doing. Try writing it down.
4. Don't just write blogs, tell stories.
5. Share your genuine thoughts and opinions.
6. Edit ruthlessly.
             So I'm going to wrap things up now. I hope my words implement some positive ideas in your mind and help you achieve many great things in life ahead. Lastly I would say, if you want people to hear about your business, you should write, if you care about sharing and improving ideas, you should write. And above all, if you want to find your voice, and to understand yourself, you should write.Also, share me your experiences about what changed your life. I'd love to hear them. And also, let me know if you start writing ahead and it brings some change in you too.
LOVE! <3

What are you waiting for? DO IT NOW!!

          So yeah, this blog is for those who are struggling with their board exam this year or anyone who wishes to make this year a productive and a learning one. 

          Is there something you want to do and is pending for quite a long time? Or have your realized or at least tried to figure out what is it that’s stopping you from starting it? Or is it something you’ve started but not able to progress and feel inactive about it? 

         Whenever we wish to do something, we get a lot (I repeat again A LOT) of doubts and questions like from “Oh this is so hard, will I be able to do it?” to “What will people say if I fail?” or “Will I be able to make it?” Trust me or not, even I felt the same when I wanted to start writing blogs but my mind was flooded with such questions and one day I just asked myself, why not? And see, I’m finally here influencing you all, spreading positivity all around for those smiles. At the end, it all depends on your will power. You really need to get a deep desire for something you really want and follow these tips mentioned below and you’ll surely accomplish them.

POINT NO.1 Firstly, as I said, get a deep desire for something you want to achieve. 

 POINT NO.2 If it is a long term goal, break it down in parts and set your goal for the day.

 POINT NO.3 Decide on the actual hours you can devote for your goal of the day.

 POINT NO.4 Just start doing without worrying about the long term outcomes. 

 POINT NO.5 Keep yourself motivated. Many people can inspire you but nothing can help if you are not self-motivated which has to come within you. That’s what makes you achieve your goals. 

 POINT NO.6 Keep saying to yourself ‘Whatever comes in my way, I’m still going to do it’. Keep yourself away from distractions while you’re working for your goal. Think about the success you want ahead in your life. Constantly think about the life you want to live ahead and start working for it. 

POINT NO.7 Work in an environment where you won’t get disturbed. (If possible, switch off your mobile phones/notifications for an hour or two) 

POINT NO.8 Reward yourself at the end of the day when you successfully achieve your goal of the day. 

POINT NO.9 Have a record of your achievement in a small handy notebook. (Trust me, this is going to be really helpful at the present and for the future as well). 

POINT NO. 10 Repeat the same the other day. 

After one week or a month, observe the progress that you’ve made and you’ll be pleasantly surprised. I hope these tips help you make your board exams and also, this year 2k18, a productive one. 

"IT’S BETTER TO TAKE JUST ONE STEP A DAY THAN TO STAND STILL". Isn’t it? 

 Lastly, thank you for reading me. If you have any more views or suggestions, comment down below. BEST LUCK. 

Love love XOXO 💝

No one is perfect.

                  To some people, it might seem like a person has got everything they want or their lives are so damn perfect and they can have easily whatever they want. Yeah? It happens to us when we usually explore our Instagram News feed and find certain people who are beautiful or someone who travels a lot like fashion bloggers, beauty bloggers or food bloggers, this thought always crosses our mind that is "Damn, their life is so perfect." But in reality, they are just as imperfect as everyone else in this world. 
                

                No matter who you are I am positively sure that you've made some kind of mistake that you are not proud of, until today you regret it when you remember that mistake. But that's okay, even the famous and important people have messed up a few times to many. Never get hard on yourself for making a mistake, it's a part of life. You learn from your mistakes and if you don't, it's probably your choice. Just know that making a mistake does not end your life. In fact, if you don't commit mistakes, you are not learning well as you are skipping those stepping stones of your life and just focusing on being perfect everywhere but nothing comes without experience. You need to make mistakes to know something perfectly as 'Perfection is in imperfection'. And that's the reason pencils come with erasers and apologies were created.

                There are always going to be these extraordinary people who are smarter than others but that does not mean they know EVERYTHING. At some point, everyone wishes to be smarter and that's not a bad thing but at least have the urge to be smarter for the amount of knowledge you are going to gain; not because you want to be smarter than someone else. Don't ever try to compete with others, compete with yourself everyday and make yourself better than you were yesterday. Being smart is never about the amount of questions you can answer correctly or the number of A's on your report card. It's about being able to do things to your best ability.

                That one person that you think has the best life and you think is smart, didn't just wake up one day and received all that as a gift from Santa Claus. They work hard to accomplish what they planned on and keeping it that way or possibly making it even more better. But the question is: Why would someone you think is a 'perfect human being' would want their lives to get any better? Strange, isn't it? Maybe according to them, there is no perfection. There is always space for getting better.

             Remember? All that glitters is not gold; that applies here. Maybe someone you think is attractive (from outside) is struggling with something internally and you never get to know about it. Hence, never judge someone by their social media. Everyone claims to be perfect on it. If you keep judging people for their mistakes, you'd probably be left alone in this world. So judge less and love more. It's not good to judge others just because they sin differently than you.
     
             This is for everyone, especially girls out there; please stop letting each other down. We are all one community. Stick together and help fix each others' crowns. Spread love, not hatred that too because of someone (or your friend) you saw on social media today, seems to be perfect. Stay positive and say good things about others rather than ranting and gossiping behind their backs. They would never know that but you are obviously wasting your time and energy; and letting negativity consume your mind and soul.
         
              Even I've committed many mistakes in my lifetime but that certainly didn't end my life. I took that as my lesson; though it was a rough stage of my life, yet I managed to get out from it and you can too. Just don't end your precious lives for one mistake that you think was not at all good. Trust me, you'll get out from it.

 

                There is always a room for mistakes, to learn, to work hard, get better than before and even to grow as a person. Not one person who has walked on this planet has claimed the title of 'Being Perfect'. Everyone has their own flaws, and being imperfect is just human nature.

THE POWER OF SILENCE!

           In a difficult conversation where one is usually seeking for answers like why something happened or didn’t happen and other just doesn’t bother to sort that shit out. Usually, when you are clear at your side, you are the one who look for answers because you genuinely want to know about that one reason due to which all your friendship and love for each other just vanishes and so does communication.

           Trust me, in tough talks like that, silence can be your greatest accessory to get your answers. I know, many people won’t believe me right now because for them, silence plays like a coward role which is totally untrue. Actually, it plays other way round because people don’t like those “awkward silences” and that’s the reason people try to avoid such hysteric moments. But if you use that silence in the right way and with good intentions, silence can be good for you.

             
              Constantly criticizing for something you didn’t do can be really disturbing for one’s mind and maintaining positivity during a tough talk is like a blessing. It saves us from many problems and unrequired nuisance.

              

              As on his LinkedIn blog, Dr. Travis Bradberry explains that:

“When you ask someone a question and they are slow to respond, don’t feel pressure to move the conversation forward. Remaining silent plays to your advantage. Moments of silence make people feel as though they should speak, especially when the ball is in your court. (i.e. it’s your responsibility now to take a step forward and speak). Silence is a great tool to use in discussions and other difficult conversations. Just make certain you resist the urge to move the conversation forward until you get your answers.”

              

              Being silent is also a symbol of playing matured game where you could throw hundreds and thousands of bad words on someone’s face (and cause more trouble for yourself) but you still choose to keep quiet and listen all that the other person wants to say. Acting like the shit that you said just now didn’t bother me at all is the toughest performance of all times where you want to say so many things to your beloved but got no other option. 

             Silence can go both ways: When you come across a tough question, embrace the silent pause that will come along with it. Take your time to process your answer and reply only when you’re ready because replying something meaningful and saving your relationship is better than saying something shitty and destroy your relationship. With a little silence, you can take control of the conversation and get exactly what you hoped for. 

             Also, a meaningful silence is better than meaningful words because no words can explain what’s going on in your heart and mind. At the end, we won’t remember the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends. 

Love love 😃 xoxo ♥♥